Almond Joy Cupcakes

Let’s talk, shall we?

I consider this an open forum, where I share my thoughts, and you can too.

We can use this as a place to voice our opinions and/or grievances.

Today, grievance is on the menu.  Hungry?


Let’s discuss the “Point-Out-What-You-Are-Doing Wrong”  mom. (POWYADW)

We all know one and we don’t like her.

Her sentences usually begin with, “I don’t know if you KNOW this, but…”

or the ever popular, “No offense, but…”

how about, “You can do whatever you want, but I…”

and a favorite of mine, “Do you know your child is…”


In the early years of motherhood you encounter the breast-feeding judgers.  The ones that talk and talk and talk about how great breast feeding is (no duh) and give you the sideways head look if you don’t/can’t/won’t breastfeed.  Then proceed to lecture you about how you are basically killing your child if you don’t.

  • Resolution: Turn to them and say, “Don’t you worry about who’s sucking on my boobs.” End of discussion, I promise you that.

Then once you hit the solid food stage there are the moms who make all their own homemade baby food and how they would NEVER feed their child the processed, cancer-in-a-jar food they sell at the supermarket.

  • Resolution: Casually say, “My husband and I have made the conscious decision to feed our child processed food as an infant so our other children won’t think we love him more”.  Conversation over.

As your children get older you will get to know, what I like to call, “The Video Game Police”.  They will let you know that you have just killed your child’s last brain cells by letting him play Mario Cart.

  • Resolution:  State with full resolve, “Children with good hand eye coordination grow to be smarter, stronger and better lovers.  I am improving their quality of life”.  Then fancy snap and walk away.


I had a run-in with the local POWYADW Mom just yesterday.  She was ALL OVER my son’s playground etiquette.

Of course I looked at her and said thank you.

I don’t think of witty comebacks until 2 hours later.

What I SHOULD have said was:  “Well thank you for focusing on my child’s playground etiquette, we know averting attention from your 80’s bangs and bad breath is quite a task and I am grateful I could be of help to you today.”

I now have my words for next time.


Now that’s off my chest we can talk cupcakes.  Almond Joy ones.

I started with a chocolate box mix and added some extras like shredded coconut and coconut milk…

Then I made some coconut buttercream.  You have to.  Your life will be happier because of it.

Then I stuck an almond on top.  These are ALMOND JOY cupcakes, after all.

Then I dipped them in chocolate.  You don’t HAVE to, but you will be happy if you do.  Believe in the power of chocolate.

Now eat.  EAT!


Chocolate Coating

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  • 2 cups milk chocolate chips
  • 1 1/2 Tbsp vegetable oil or vegetable shortening
  • 24 raw almonds


  1. Press an almond on top of each cupcake.
  2. Put your frosted cupcakes in the freezer for 5 minutes.
  3. Meanwhile melt your chocolate chips and veg oil or shortening in a double boiler or microwave. If using microwave heat for 1 minute on 50% power, then stir. Repeat in 30 second increments (on 50% power) stirring after each until melted.
  4. Transfer your melted chocolate into a wide mouthed mug or a small deep bowl. You need your chocolate to be deep enough to dunk the entire top of your cupcake.
  5. Remove cupcakes from freezer and dunk tops into melted chocolate.
  6. When you are finished dunking all the cupcakes place cupcakes in refrigerator to set the chocolate.


Serve at room temperature, just leave in the fridge long enough for the chocolate to set, approx 15 minutes.

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Almond Joy Cupcakes

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  • 1 box chocolate cake mix
  • 1 1/4 cup Lite Coconut Milk
  • 1 cup sweetened shredded coconut
  • 1/2 cup vegetable oil
  • 3 eggs


  1. Preheat oven to 350°
  2. Line muffin pan with cupcake liners.
  3. In a large mixing bowl combine all ingredients. Mix on low for 30 seconds. Turn mixer speed up to medium and beat for 2 minutes.
  4. Fill liners 1/2 full with batter.
  5. Bake for 15-20 minutes until centers spring back when pressed.
  6. Let cool completely before frosting.

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Coconut Buttercream

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  • 1 cup butter (2 sticks) room temperature
  • 3/4 cup vegetable shortening
  • 8 cups sifted powdered sugar
  • 1/23/4 cup light coconut milk
  • 1/2 tsp. coconut extract


  1. In mixer beat together butter and shortening until smooth.
  2. On low mix in your powdered sugar.
  3. Pour in your coconut milk and coconut extract and mix until combined. Turn up speed to medium and mix for 45 seconds.
  4. Pipe or spread onto cupcakes. If piping use a snipped off ziplock bag or a large 1A tip on a piping bag.

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Hi! I’m Shelly and I’m an addict. Of the buttercream sort. I started this site a few years ago as a way to justify my sugary, buttery obsession with desserts. It has worked out well for me so far, because as it turns out you guys all love sugary, buttery desserts too! It feels good to know you're not alone, doesn’t it?

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78 Responses
  1. Dear Shelly ~
    Oh fancy snap! The hubs so ?s Almond Joys — you’re his new favorite blog, methinks…

    As a (former) teacher, I encountered way too many a POWYADW mom who was sticking her bad breath into everybody’s business; while her own darling was lying or stealing or bullying…
    Hate not having a rapid-fire come-back — I also am struck with THE brilliant retort of the century… afterwards…


    1. Sooooo, I mentioned this post to the hubs & he checked my Pinterest board & told me I hadn’t pinned it. Ok – now it’s pinned. (He wants to make sure I make Almond Joy Cupcakes for his lunchbox…)

  2. Sadly those POWYADW mom continue with there behavior through high school. By that time I was able to stare them in the face and just say “Oh really”. Very effective for shutting them up.
    The cupcakes look divine.

  3. sheri

    Video Game Police…tell them that children with good hand eye coordination also make great surgeons
    as always you make me hungry with your yummy goodies!

  4. tiffani

    while these cupcakes look amazing…i mean who wouldn’t love anything with almond joy in the title….i must say that youu crack me up. great recipe…and great post!

  5. megan

    Going backward: this will be one of my favorite recipes…I already know it!! Me LOVES chocolate and coconut, especially when incorporated into buttercream!! I bet some almond extract added with the coconut extract will be good too…thats how I make my oatmeal: with almond and coconut extract, toasted coconut and almonds, if I have them…I leave the chocolate out to make myself feel healthy 🙂

    ANYHOO, I’m so sorry about that Mother…I have BEEN there and, even though it’s annoying, it’s also just plain hurtful…we put so much pressure on ourselves, we do NOT need it from anyone else…maybe the kill her with kindness option would be to make her these cupcakes and attach a note telling her how you thought this might put some sweetness into her words/thoughts next time!!!

  6. Donna D.

    Is there someway I can contact you in a comeback emergency, my awesome comebacks usually come about 2 days later 🙂 I’m not even a mom and I’ve gotten the POWYADW comments. I was with my (well behaved) nephew checking out at a store when he asked for some candy, I said not this time which he was totally okay with (well maybe not but he didn’t make a fuss) old lady in front of us turns around and says “now you listen to your mother young man” uhhhhhhh thanks lady. Our solution…we ignored her I mean we didn’t know she was even talking to us as I’m not his mother 😉 I was desperatly trying to think of some witty thing to respond to her though, but the best I came up with was “I’m his aunt not his mom”…yeah, thats a great comeback.
    So I would like to thank you for the comebacks that will most certainly come in handy when I have my own kids and of course thanks for the recipe as I NEED those cupcakes, I love, love, love coconut and chocolate!!!

  7. Oh how I despise POWYADW moms. As moms we are seriously SO hard on each other–it kills me. I was told to say about breastfeeding, “How about I won’t ask about what kind of action your boobs see, and you can extend the same courtesy.” 🙂 And, I must try these cupcakes!

  8. I stumbled onto your blog this morning….you are really FUNNY! Into the bookmarks you go because it looks like you bake really well too.

    Thanks for the bright spot today–

  9. Sheila

    Thanks for the idea to have comebacks ready for POWYADW Moms. I only have mental images of me shaking them. Lame, I know. Love the recipe. Will try this over the weekend. Coating it in chocolate is an awesome idea!

  10. JoDough

    Totally brings me back to my child bearing years when an “elite” group of supermoms were frowning upon anything other than home births…with a midwife…in your bathtub. Sheesh.
    P.S. Did I mention I LOVE almond joy…because I ALWAYS feel like a nut. hehe 🙂

  11. Amy K

    You seriously crack me up. Today, especially the breast feeding comment. My husband is very quick at comebacks. I, on the other hand, always think of something well after the fact (you know, while I’m still stewing about it). 🙂 These cupcakes certainly must have made you feel better!

  12. I was laughing so hard when I got to this part “I don’t think of witty comebacks until 2 hours later.” – that is so me! I never know what to say in the moment, it’s only a few hours later that I have that aha moment and realize what the perfect comeback would have been.

  13. I have heard your oh-so- witty comebacks in real time, and I can’t believe you just didn’t bring up the Z Z reference and scrunch your nose and purse the lips. It’ll get ’em every time. But knowing you create such awesome treats is best comeback of all!!

  14. oh i am totally the same way i get all mad at the time and instead of being all witty and cool and fancy snapping i just give them a dirty look and think of all the way cool stuff i coulda said. love, love, love the dipping it in chocolate. i’m totally gonna steal that idea 😉

  15. I LOL’d at POWYADW and ‘don’t you worry about who’s sucking on my boobs.’ ohhh funn.
    but the almond joy cupcakes. those are a serious matter. oh man oh man. i need.

  16. Seriously. I wish I was a gnome living in your floor boards so I can break out at night and eat all of your delicious creations…not the kids though. I’m sure they are beautiful and they certainly are your creations, but I would not want to eat them. Especially since children with bad playground etiquette have been known to taste sour. Lol. J/k. That bad breathed bitch.

  17. Hey,

    I’m a relatively new visitor – but once I found the site, I couldn’t help but scroll and drool – and pin a lot of your recipes to my “Favorite Recipes” on Pinterest….. =)

    These cupcakes look AMAZING – a fan of all of those tastes – but even more fun was your wittiness before the recipe. OH MY GOODNESS, if I could only have had the confidence I have with my kids now when I had them as infants/babies/toddlers. Now that my kids are 12 and 9 – and no where close to perfect, but perfect just to me – I recognize that none of their inconsistent sleeping habits, processed (sweet) baby food, breast milk that came pumped from a bottle, evenings spent sleeping with us, or television viewing/video game playing have made any dent in the big picture of they are today. I LOVE your comebacks, so funny – wish I could have had that kind of mentality back then!

    But, as for today – bring on the cupcakes!!!


  18. Yummy, yummy in my tummy! Love these high hat cupcakes. Well, I don’t know if you know this, but I’ve always wanted to make some, however, I’m too chicken to try… the coconut makes it all the more tempting. One of these days…

  19. I must make a confession right here on your blog. I have been one of “those” moms (ducks) please forgive me as I have also been on the receiving end of one of “those” moms as well. Trust me, I don’t become one often. What lead me to be a POWYADY last week was when I brought a basketball to the court and one little boy kept taking it from my son and I his mom was doing nothing about it. I had to take matters into my own hands and politely ask the boy to stop taking the ball, yes I was polite. LIke you however, I thought of all the things I wanted to say to the mom on my way home. 🙂 I mean my poor little boy got teary eyed. That is my confession on the playground.
    Meanwhile, back to the cupcake, this makes me feel good because it looks like the dipped cones I used to get as a child. So thanks for that I will be baking these soon

  20. People like that drive me crazy, and I do not look forward to meeting them when I have children of my own. But, thank you for the witty comebacks, now I will know what to say!
    These cupckaes look devine! I can’t wait to try them!! 🙂

  21. Yummy! I need to make some of these immediately! I am good with the snappy comebacks in those situations but have had to learn to bite my tongue because my son has picked up my snarky behavior 😛

  22. I am a #1 fan of the Fancy Snap. Also, I am a quick thinker. I can comeback like nobody’s business. My husband however…not so much. Because of this, he’s not really supposed to talk to people unless I’m there to feed him his words.

    Just kidding (I’m not kidding)

    Cupcakes look yummy as always!! Love that swirled frosting…pretty!!

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Shelly Hi! I’m Shelly and I’m an addict. Of the buttercream sort. I started this site a few years ago as a way to justify my sugary, buttery obsession with desserts. It has worked out well for me so far, because as it turns out you guys all love sugary, buttery desserts too! It feels good to know you're not alone, doesn’t it?

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